Friday, May 16, 2014

Reminding My Heart

Undoubtedly you've heard the phrase:

"What's your gut reaction?"

As I continue on my masculine journey, I am privileged to be a part of the revolution that God has called men to from across the globe...all started when John Eldredge wrote Wild at Heart (2001, Thomas Nelson, Inc.).

He also wrote a companion workbook to it called The Wild at Heart Field Manual - which is, as he describes it "like getting two years of therapy for about ten bucks." 

I know I got my copy back in 2009, the year after I first discovered and read his book. I've been working my way through this incredible tool ever since. It's starting to fall apart in some places from use - and it's detailed with various highlighter shades, notes, drawings, pictures pasted in...and, most of all, the deep truth of a man whose heart has been rescued and set free by God.

In the first chapter of the Field Manual, one of the first things Eldredge asks of a man is:

"You've read the first chapter of Wild at Heart - now give me a gut reaction. What struck you? What stirred you, got your blood going?" (p. 6)

Here is what I wrote:
  • It made me feel things I'd forgotten about myself as a man.
  • I've been looking for my heart all my life!
  • What's my destiny?
  • I long for an invitation to be the man I long to be: courageous, bold, romantic!!
  • I am a warrior, lover, sage, and king!
  • Why do I search in me - and other men - for authentic masculinity?
  • I've failed many tests...but still believe I have what it takes!
  • Wild - Strong - Valiant...waiting to be set free by God?!
I'm in no rush to finish the Field Manual as I continue to walk in the freedom I've been called up into and fought hard to win with God leading the charge. And it's good to check back in on my gut reaction to know that I am finding the deep, true answers to the questions above...and the ones that come from living in the wild territory of a free heart.

For more information on John Eldredge and Ransomed Heart Ministries - along with a treasure trove of books, CD's, DVD's and other resources - please visit RansomedHeart.com

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Walking with God: Conversational Intimacy

In the introduction to his book Walking with God (2008: Thomas Nelson), author John Eldredge starts bold:

"It is our deepest need, as human beings, to learn to live intimately with God. It is what we were made for. Back in the beginning of our story...there was a paradise called Eden. In that garden of life as it was meant to be, there lived the first man and woman. Their story is important to us because whatever it was they were, and whatever it was they had, we also were meant to be and to have. And what they enjoyed above all the other delights of that place was this - they walked with God. They talked with him, and he with them." (ix, Introduction)

What saddens me today is that not only are so many people still so far away from God (Eden to today is one major road trip) but communication today - with all of its technological gadgetry and wizardry - has taken the context of communicating and siloed people from one another in ways that are alarming. 

"Call me." The world is so busy it usually goes to voicemail.
"Text me." Complete sentences and punctuation aren't even required anymore.
"Email me." And the inbox assault continues, piling on, putting people further behind.

God, in his scandalous grace and and fierce glory, wants ME...my voice, my walk, right there in step and Spirit with him. He doesn't give a flip how many apps I have on my smart phone. He doesn't want to wait until I have my emails caught up. He certainly wants to say things deeper into my heart that far exceed 150 characters. 

Only from learning to be still and know - listen - walk with God have I found that what Eldredge says makes sense. Many people (especially in the church) feel that God no longer speaks...or that the only way he speaks to those who love and follow him is through Scripture. I do believe that the Bible is the foundational truth for all in Christ to follow - but to be told that God no longer speaks isn't true or biblical.

'The man who enters by the gate is the shepherd of his sheep. The watchman opens the gate for him, and the sheep listen to his voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice.' (John 10:2-4 NIV)

If God is walking, then has he stopped talking?? Not for me...I follow because I have begun to listen...deeply, intimately, courageously and faithfully. Conversational intimacy with God is not only real, but part of our original design and birthright. So, unplug from the PC and the smart phone and the TV...ask him if he would like to walk and talk with you. I seriously doubt you'll get voicemail!!

Strength & Honor!

For more on John Eldredge, his books & resources from Ransomed Heart Ministries, please visit:
RansomedHeart.com

Sunday, November 17, 2013

The Thin Places

In the bigger scheme of life, I know that 15 months since my last posting in here isn't that significant...especially since I know that God has been up to some good in the interventions toward my heart He's performed - you know, sort of on the scale, invasion-wise, as, say, the beginning scenes of Saving Private Ryan.

I don't blame me for not checking in here - being in The Thin Places with God, no less battling spiritual warfare on a level over the last few years that has been some of the fiercest I've seen - leads me to believe that I am heading in exactly the right direction that God has planned for my continuing masculine journey and initiation, healing, preparation, and mission.

So, short and sweet...it's good to be back. Where I'm at, it's raining today. Feel like a little boy that's looking out the window and wishing he could go out and play. More coming in the near future on my walk with God, my continuing love for the Wild at Heart and Ransomed Heartmessage and ministry, my adventures in men's work with The ManKind Project, and some of what's been going on in the interim. Blessed to be where I've been and looking forward to fiercely bringing the Kingdom as I continue to follow His lead!

For a deeper look at my adventures with the Wild at Heart Advanced Boot Camp, email me at living.fierce@gmail.com for a copy of "The Thin Places."

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

The New Warrior Training Adventure (Oct. 19-21, 2012)

Somewhere along the way a man invited me to take a journey, to step into an adventure...


Men's work - it's messy, sometimes dangerous, always thrilling and necessary. Our culture in the West has lost all sight of what masculine initiation truly means to other cultures and civilizations. Sadly, a great number of men...young and old...find their lives cut off, under fire, desperate or perhaps assigned to unwanted terrain.

There is a place a man make find adventure as he searches for what his heart truly desires & his mission in this world...

It's called The New Warrior Training Adventure, sponsored by The ManKind Project of Kentucky (www.kentucky.mkp.org) and to be held in Bedford, IN from October 19-21, 2012. Registration is now open & spaces are limited - reserve your spot today!!

Call 502.939.4333 for more information on an adventure you will not want to miss!

Friday, February 10, 2012

Time to Invade the Man Caves!!



Men are hungry. No, not for the next latte or the latest iPhone. No, not for 6-pack abs or a corner office. Men are hungry for initiation - for a call into the battle and adventure and beauty that is crying out from their hearts.

One of the reasons I love the Psalms in Scripture is that David, a complex and interesting model of masculinity, tells it like it is. He's not going to speak to God through a filter, through a mask, and he's not going to sit there and beg for a plate of milk and cookies to make everything alright when his soul is being crushed and he doesn't see a way out. Shepherd, warrior, king...and, yet, he craved a deeper initiation, a more pressing closeness through prayer with God.

Today was one of those days when I wanted to just hide in a favorite part of my man cave - namely, the bedroom, blinds drawn, covers pulled tight, eyes shut tighter, phone turned off. Hiding. When I was called out...pushed out, dragged out by a Power greater than myself...I was led to Psalm 142 (written, by the way, when David was hiding in the cave):

"When my spirit grows faint within me, it is you who know my way. In the the path where I walk men have hidden a snare for me. Look to my right and see; no one is concerned for me. I have no refuge; no one cares for my life." (142:3-4 NIV)

Not exactly the way "a man after God's own heart" should act, huh? Not very kingly, huh? Not exactly the poster boy for the warrior spirit, huh? But how true this is of men's hearts today, wouldn't you say? Or maybe you wouldn't...

Maybe it's your heart that longs for refuge - longs for someone to care. Masculine initiation is about men caring for the hearts of other men fiercely enough to go into battle for them. The hidden snares of evil plague men's hearts at every turn - you know the ones you get trapped in. I do. But the initiatory journey is created...whether secular or faith-based...to offer a man a way out of the cave, an opportunity to stop hiding, and a chance to go into battle surrounded by a legion of men who will fight until blood, sweat, and tears have been spent in the glory of victory!

The month of March offers two such opportunities for men in the local Kentucky/Indiana region to step into the containers of the masculine journey, to be deeply initiated in ways that their hearts are hungry for.

One is called the New Warrior Training Adventure and is sponsored by the ManKind Project of Kentucky (http://www.kentucky.mkp.org/). It's a 3-day experiential men's initiatory adventure designed to challenge a man in ways, perhaps, that he's never been challenged before to look at himself and step into a life of vision, action, and mission. It will take place from March 30-April 1, 2012 in Bedford, IN (for more info, you can contact MKP Kentucky by calling 502.939.4333).

The other is called the Men at the Cross weekend and is sponsored by The Cross Ministry Group (http://www.crossmg.org/). It's a 3-day intensive men's experiential weekend where men come to experience a unique encounter with God and other men. It will take place from March 16-18, 2012 in Underwood, IN (for more info, you can contact The Cross Ministry Group by calling 502.216.1942).

Who do you know that's hiding in his man cave? Maybe it's a cave of money, power, sex, deceit, anger, sadness, shame, fear, busyness, despair, or wounds from a time long ago. It's time to light a torch, take up the sword, cry out for the strength, and invade the man caves around you and rouse the hearts of the men hidden in darkness. It takes courage to invite a man into the deeper journey of initiation...and it's never too late!!

Monday, October 17, 2011

Fierce Personality: A Review of "Beautiful Outlaw" by John Eldredge





It was December 2010. I arrived at the breathtaking Frontier Ranch in Buena Vista, CO to attend the Wild at Heart Advanced Boot Camp, led by author, co-founder, and director of Ransomed Heart Ministries, John Eldredge. During the 3-days in the Rockies taking a deeper look and walk with the interpersonal relationship with Jesus, this band of brothers over 350 strong from around the world was intrigued to hear Eldredge and his Ransomed Heart team (Craig McConnell, Bart Hansen, and Morgan Snyder) begin to talk about a new book about the life – and personality – of Jesus.


As 2011 winds down, I was asked to review Eldredge’s latest novel, Beautiful Outlaw (Faithwords, 225 pages), I was actually at a point where seeing that Jesus (or meeting with him in Scripture and more often than not misconnecting) was becoming difficult, labored, without much desire. I wasn’t 20 pages into the book when Eldredge – talking about how essential it was to discover the personality of Jesus…undraped by what might be happening in church or Christianity or churchianity or, worse yet, through the religious haze of what characterized most of what, Scripturally, were the arenas in which most of Jesus’ most awesome heart-to-heart cage matches took place – put a deeper truth on the tip of the sword:


‘What is missing in our Gospel reading – and in our attempts to “read” what Jesus is saying and doing in our own lives right now, this week – is his personality, undraped by religion. Let’s see if we can find this.’


Eldredge, author of such bestselling books as The Sacred Romance (co-authored with Brent Curtis), Desire, Wild at Heart, Waking the Dead, and co-author with his wife, Stasi, of Captivating and Love & War, exhibits courage and boldness deftly blended with a fluid and winsome narrative early on. In the pages of his Introduction, he uncorks a fine bottle of context:
“We don’t need further speculation or debate. We need Jesus himself. And you can have him. Really. You can experience Jesus intimately. You were meant to. For despite the vandalizing of Jesus Christ by religion and the world, he is still alive and very much himself. Though nowadays it takes a bit of uncovering to know him as he is.”

And, sadly, perhaps the drapes measured by most churches to fit the windows looking onto the personality of Jesus miss such things as his playfulness, fierce intention, his human face, extravagant generosity, and disruptive honesty. “The man shoots straight,” Eldredge says in a chapter about the honesty of Jesus. “Sometimes he’s playful; sometimes he’s fierce; the next moment he’s generous. This is the beauty of his disruptive honesty – you can count on Jesus to tell you the truth in the best possible way for you to hear it.” (p. 71)


This is the Jesus many, including myself, have been searching for. I thought I met Jesus six years ago for the first time. Eldredge, with a joyful wit and razor sharp (yet perhaps accurate) sting to some of his projections on the church, invites the reader into the scandalous freedom with which Jesus – as fully God and fully man – lives, the cunning he has (…and, oh man, does he use it, especially against street gangs like the Pharisees…), how his heart overflows with humility, trueness, and beauty, and how loving Jesus – really loving him as he is and is meant to be – letting Jesus be himself with you and through the daily encounters can fill one’s life and be the powerful winds to clear away the “religious fog.”


And the reader is invited to know Jesus in a revolutionary way, and Eldredge’s writing – and the challenge behind the questions – does drive some stakes into ground: Why does false reverence replace loving Jesus? Does knowing about God substitute for knowing God? Why shouldn’t power displays be confused for intimacy with Jesus? Isn’t the stereotypical ‘Christian service’ really just a substitute for friendship with Christ? Does the church offer – or prevail – under a trivial morality? I found Eldredge’s style to be a courageous blend of unvarnished aim for the heart of his readers and the unmistakable revolutionary images of Jesus that have been covered over by so much religious coatings. As the chapters unfolded towards the Epilogue, Eldredge is wistful yet compelling: “I am groping for the words that will somehow move you to hold on to this. The train blows its whistle; the mother chokes up and the father clasps the last handshake ever so tightly, because they know what is at stake. My friends, so much is at stake.” (p. 211)
While others may aim low to find fault with a sense of Eldredge (or other authors) positing solutions for the church if only it would listen and take action, a majority of voices seem to be queuing up to say, ‘Hey, yeah, this is the Jesus I ache to know and am ready to meet.’ In a sense, it’s a Gospel that needs to be read.


In conjunction with the release of Beautiful Outlaw, Ransomed Heart Ministries (http://www.beautifuloutlaw.net/) is offering a free download of a companion 18-part video series for the book, along with a free participant guide for small group study. As Wild at Heart (2001, Thomas Nelson) impacted so many men for the battle, adventure, and beauty in pursuing the heart of Jesus, Beautiful Outlaw and Eldredge so brilliantly and bravely challenges that “…a true knowledge of Jesus is our greatest need and our greatest happiness.”

Friday, September 2, 2011

A Look Ahead to OUTLAWCast!










I think about Colorado all the time...even today, walking home from the store in 90+ degree blazing heat, haze in my eyes, I was thinking about being accepted in the lottery for the upcoming Wild at Heart Advanced Boot Camp (Dec. 1 - 4, 2011 in Buena Vista, CO at gorgeous Frontier Ranch). More will be revealed...not even sure if it's my time to go again. My faith walk, especially this past year, has been tested like no other time since 2005 and Christ's capture of my heart and my sword. When John Eldredge and his awesome Ransomed Heart Ministry team took to the deeper sides of Wild at Heart last year, I came home with deep impact and much warfare against my heart ahead.



So I look forward to several events and invite all of the men reading this post to consider checking out John's live Webcast event. I'll be hosting a small gathering in Louisville, KY on Monday, November 14, 2011 from 7 until 9pm. Contact me at fontaine4christ@gmail.com for more information on attending if in the area.


Get ready for a review of Eldredge's latest book, Beautiful Outlaw. His Grace Amazing has requested an advance copy (publishing date mid-October), so come back for an insight into the playful, disruptive, and extravagant personality of Jesus.



Visit the Website at http://www.beautifuloutlaw.net/ for more up-to-date information on the book, John's live event tour behind it, and more resources. Don't forget you'll find all information about Ransomed Heart Ministry at http://www.ransomedheart.com


Come visit soon for information on how you can support my attending the Wild at Heart Advanced Boot Camp in December 2011.